Internet Dating; Looking For Commitment

The reasons for joining an internet dating service are varied. Those who are serious in finding someone special are looking for commitment. They’re ready to share their life.

People come in all shapes and sizes. When it comes to internet dating what people are looking for is just as varied. If you’re looking for serious commitment, you want to avoid those who aren’t.

Someone’s relationship status is a good place to start. “Married” means attached. They’re on the site for a fling, nothing more. “Separated” is also still married, but likely on the verge of divorce and testing the dating pool. Neither is commitment material. “Divorced” means available, at least legally. It’s important however to determine how long the person has been divorced. If they’ve just signed their divorce papers, they’re not likely to want to commit to someone else so soon.

Pay attention to the type of relationship someone is looking for. Too often people initiate communication with someone who clearly is not looking for a long term commitment. Those seeking “Intimate Encounters” are looking for sex. Period.

Be on the lookout for the word “casual” anywhere in someone’s profile When you’re looking for a committed relationship, “casual” is not in your vocabulary, so take a pass.

Pay attention to the profile photos. If someone is serious about finding a partner for life, they’ll post the most flattering photos of themselves. And that doesn’t include pics of parties with dozens of friends at a bar. The same holds true of body shots like pecs, abs, muscles and more.

Pay attention to who he or she talks about in their profile. If immediate family and close friends are an important part of his or her life then chances are good that they’re responsible and looking to commit. If all you read is talk about good time friends, then settling down is the furthest thing from their mind.

What kind of a person is your potential match looking for? Are personal character and traits mentioned? People who mention deal breakers like children, drugs, smoking and other personal qualities have given thought to who they want to spend their life with. If the only mention is that their ideal date must have large breasts, or be good looking, they’re really not serious about finding true love.