The dating world can be a cruel one, and it can be particularly unkind to someone who gives off vibes of dating desperation. Chances are that you won’t attract a date anytime soon, and if you do, there will be a first date and likely no second one.
Nothing turns off potential daters faster than appearing so desperate for a date that you’ll do almost anything to get one. In extreme cases, dating desperation can seem almost creepy. At best it’s just kind of sad.
If you’ve ever played golf you know that there is such a thing as trying too hard. The more you concentrate on getting that little white ball into the hole, the worse your golf game becomes. Finding, and keeping, a date is no different. Try too hard and your date will just feel pressured.
How often in the past six months have you told a little white lie to a potential date? If the answer cannot be counted on one hand, then you’re guilty of lying to impress. There are two unfortunate consequences of lying to impress; one, potential daters will sense your insincerity and two, you’ll soon have a reputation as a liar.
As a desperate dater, you want potential dates to like you. So you end up agreeing with everything they say and come off looking like a bobblehead doll what with all the nodding you’re doing! There’s nothing wrong with polite disagreement! That’s what good conversation is made off, and gives you each the chance to learn about each other.
You’re a doormat. You’ve been stood up so many times you’ve lost count, and rather than tell your date how you feel, you simply accept his/her explanation. That’s the sign of a doormat. If you don’t respect yourself, why should anyone else? Self respect is the key to self confidence; and a must if you don’t want to appear desperate.
Do you think you have to sleep with someone in order for them to stick around, even though you don’t think you’re ready? Sleeping with someone before you’re ready is a sure sign of desperation. If you date decides to drop you if you won’t sleep with him/her, then just let them!
It comes down to this; if you’ll date anything with a pulse, you’ll come across as a desperate dater. Do yourself a favor and take some time off. Get comfortable with yourself. Then, and only then, should you pursue dating.
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